I've been blogging a lot lately because i feel like i have so much to say, and instead of holding it all in i'm just going to write it all down!
I think it's safe to say that growing up is not always fun, and in some cases it's not fun AT ALL. I'm noticing more and more that it's easier for some to grow up, while others are stuck at 18. Growing up has nothing to do with your financial status, social status, number of children, or marital status. Growing up is about how you handle situations that come your way. Yes you have children but do you still club EVERY weekend and are nowhere to be found the day after? I'm sorry but you still have some growing to do. Maybe you're financially stable but you spend all of your money on useless things instead of investing and sowing seeds, Yes you guessed it, you still have some growing to do.
It's definately a mind over matter thing. Learning to take care of responsibility first will definately grow you up. Lately I've been going through my responsibilities in my mind and it's completely overwhelming the things that i Have to take care of. Not the things that i want to take care of or feel like taking care of, but things i have to take care of. Paying bills is not something i want to do but i have to do it and i need to do it. In order for us to continue to grow and mature it's absolutely essential that we take care of necessities before leisure.
At 23 years old i feel like i'm behind in a lot of things, but as i grow and mature God is showing me that everything is done in his perfect timming, not our perfect timming. God wants us to have the desires of our hearts and he knows that i would like to be futher along, but he also knows that without rain I won't experience growth so as he's taking me through different things in my life i'm seeing the importance of every single litte or big, trial, tribulation, storm, struggle, crisis, and circumstance. He's testing my faith, perseverance, and watching the way i handle these situations. If i bow, bend, or break I'm showing him that i'm not yet ready and i need to continue to grow and mature so the rain comes once again. What i have to do is understand that he will never give me more than i can bare although it may feel like i can't take anymore he knows exactly how much i can bare. When a storm approaches me and i begin to pray and war in the spirit and in the end i smile and say "God is going to work things out, God is going to turn what the devil meant for evil into something good and something that will work in my favor." With that attitude God is able to take me to the next level with trials and tribulations but the difference this time will be that i am able to handle them differntly and from there He can begin to really bless me because i've learned to praise him inspite of what i'm going through.
I watch my friends graduate with bachalors degrees in different areas and go on to work in their respected fields, get new cars, have no bills and the devil begis to speak to me and say "Brenee' you'll never be where they are, you'll never be as grown as they are, look at you, you'll never move from the spot that you're in." But i know that God is not a man that he should lie and his promises are true. In Habakkuk 2 it says that though your vision may terry it will not be late! and because God is maturing me and i'm experiencing growth I can first rebuke the devil, and second i can be happy for my friends that they are being blessed. This will show God that his work in me has not been in vain and i will be able to recieve double when my time comes to be blessed because i'm able to rejoice with others in their good times although i'm still going through.
Overall, I'm excited about the new direction God is taking me in, how he's preparing me to fulfill his promises and how he's preparing me to be prosperous.
As God continues to mature me and grow me up, i pray that he does the same for those of you who are seeking to make changes in your life! I tell you it is an awesome thing to be in the ways of God and although you may not see your efforts being rewarded right away, don't worry, continue to stay faithful to God and continue to allow him to water you so that you'll be all that he wants you to be and never want for anything. Be blessed.
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Sunday, March 2, 2008
Women's Edition: Internet Dating
I've been doing a lot of writing lately, mostly on what i see on a day to day basis in life, online, on tv, in my bible, wherever i can get info. However the subject that needs the most attention is dating. Internet dating is ever increasing and it looks as though it will not slow down. Looking through calssifides to see what others have to offer.....i'm shall we say less than impressed. Let us begin with us women, yes get prepared because "imma put you up on game."
As much as many of us, men and women, claim to be ready for something real, serious, seeking no games, looking for the one, taking a deeper look into the subject proves differently. Browsing through a popular website which shall remain namless, I ran across titles such as "Thick woman seeking good man." Now i know that there isn't much room to write your life story in the title but ladies let's be a little more original and write an eyecathcer that doesn't capture your "best" asset. I know that men are visual creature first so we have to get their attention somehow right? Now let's further explore another approach.
Being a woman of substance myself i know that we have to market ourselves differetly than "normal" (definition unknown) women. "Thick woman seeking good man" is not a title that will be remembered because women thick, thin, fat, skinny, sickly, etc, are all looking for a "good man." Here's a title that could be more promising; "Intriguing curvatious woman on the scene." This title leaves some mystery and it pulls you out of the other 8239476324932746 posts entitled "Thick woman in search of good man." In the body of your ad it is important to capitalize on more than just your looks, but let's not give them a biography. A good ad would be short with enough information to get replies from "good men." Now let's remember this is the internet and as crazy as men are out on the streets they're even crazier online so you will definately get responses that you don't want, that's life.
Remember, if you are "serious" about finding something "real", which can be found online despite the feelings of some, then you have to be HONEST! This is very important because if you plan on meeting up with someone, they'll find out exactly what you lied about in your ad. I've known some real good talkers that couldn't live up to what they wrote in their ads, so let's be on point ladies. An example of an acceptable ad would read: "First,thank you for choosing my ad to read out of the numerous, enticing i'm sure, ads by other women." This opening line will attract a guy who is seeking something serious from a well spoken woman, and it will turn off any man who has other intentions and bad taste in women, just kidding, or am I? Next tell your age and a little about yourself, remembering that honesty is the best policy. "I am a single 23 year old African American Female downt to earth, witty, and i enjoy good conversation. My interests are reading, dancing, and cooking. I would like to meet a man who is honest with common interests, has a sense of humor, and is also down to earth. I am not looking to jump the broom overnight, but to first establish a friendship and possibly go from there. Finding out more about me will be fun so let's do some verbal exploration shall we?" This ad is short and sweet, straight to the point. He should know by the end of it whether or not he wants to respond to this ad, he should not want to or have to second guess or click right to the next ad, that is if he's seriously looking.
Why not tell your weight? why not tell your height? why not indulge in how much money you make or don't make? Because these are things that should not be the reason a man is interested in you, not that he should ever know your weight anyway! Giving all of that information is not a good entrance into the start of something new. It's almost like an auction if you do it that way. 170, 5'6", 60,000, going once, twice, sold to the gentlemen with the knife in his hand! see my point? you'll attract attention that you don't want. Now that i've given a little insight on what to do and what not to do, rethink your plan of attack, make it interesting and don't overdo it, then see what happens! In my next blog i will definately get at the men on what to do and what not to do! Until then keep it real and be blessed.
As much as many of us, men and women, claim to be ready for something real, serious, seeking no games, looking for the one, taking a deeper look into the subject proves differently. Browsing through a popular website which shall remain namless, I ran across titles such as "Thick woman seeking good man." Now i know that there isn't much room to write your life story in the title but ladies let's be a little more original and write an eyecathcer that doesn't capture your "best" asset. I know that men are visual creature first so we have to get their attention somehow right? Now let's further explore another approach.
Being a woman of substance myself i know that we have to market ourselves differetly than "normal" (definition unknown) women. "Thick woman seeking good man" is not a title that will be remembered because women thick, thin, fat, skinny, sickly, etc, are all looking for a "good man." Here's a title that could be more promising; "Intriguing curvatious woman on the scene." This title leaves some mystery and it pulls you out of the other 8239476324932746 posts entitled "Thick woman in search of good man." In the body of your ad it is important to capitalize on more than just your looks, but let's not give them a biography. A good ad would be short with enough information to get replies from "good men." Now let's remember this is the internet and as crazy as men are out on the streets they're even crazier online so you will definately get responses that you don't want, that's life.
Remember, if you are "serious" about finding something "real", which can be found online despite the feelings of some, then you have to be HONEST! This is very important because if you plan on meeting up with someone, they'll find out exactly what you lied about in your ad. I've known some real good talkers that couldn't live up to what they wrote in their ads, so let's be on point ladies. An example of an acceptable ad would read: "First,thank you for choosing my ad to read out of the numerous, enticing i'm sure, ads by other women." This opening line will attract a guy who is seeking something serious from a well spoken woman, and it will turn off any man who has other intentions and bad taste in women, just kidding, or am I? Next tell your age and a little about yourself, remembering that honesty is the best policy. "I am a single 23 year old African American Female downt to earth, witty, and i enjoy good conversation. My interests are reading, dancing, and cooking. I would like to meet a man who is honest with common interests, has a sense of humor, and is also down to earth. I am not looking to jump the broom overnight, but to first establish a friendship and possibly go from there. Finding out more about me will be fun so let's do some verbal exploration shall we?" This ad is short and sweet, straight to the point. He should know by the end of it whether or not he wants to respond to this ad, he should not want to or have to second guess or click right to the next ad, that is if he's seriously looking.
Why not tell your weight? why not tell your height? why not indulge in how much money you make or don't make? Because these are things that should not be the reason a man is interested in you, not that he should ever know your weight anyway! Giving all of that information is not a good entrance into the start of something new. It's almost like an auction if you do it that way. 170, 5'6", 60,000, going once, twice, sold to the gentlemen with the knife in his hand! see my point? you'll attract attention that you don't want. Now that i've given a little insight on what to do and what not to do, rethink your plan of attack, make it interesting and don't overdo it, then see what happens! In my next blog i will definately get at the men on what to do and what not to do! Until then keep it real and be blessed.
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